Monday, November 16, 2009

I just joined an online matchmaking service. Which foreigners are the best?

I just joined this morning and already have over 100 responses. Age is not important but I want to stay in the Philippines. Which nationality would be open to this Americans, British, Germans, Australians? I am educated never married Filipina who has no desire to move abroad. I have personal reason for choosing a foreigner. There are a lot of nice men but I need to know who will really wan to stay in the Philippines. I will not leave my family.

I just joined an online matchmaking service. Which foreigners are the best?
I think I see what you are asking.





There are cultural differences in every country. I understand you wanting to stay close to the family, my wife is the same way. She will vacation anywhere I want to go, but she has no desire to live outside the Philippines.





My advice would be not to be concerned about nationality. Instead concentrate on the values that are more important to you. Also recognize that though there are a lot of nice people on those websites, some of them will be scammers who just happen to know what you want to hear.





In example- I assume that you are Roman Catholic. Instead of asking a man if he is also RC maybe ask him what he thinks about the new Holy Father. I think you will be able to tell more from his response than a straight out answer.





Also you need to ask yourself some questions. Do you mind if he ha been married before? Has children? Education Level? Goals? Hobbies? Is he hyper or calm or somewhere in between?





Maybe make a list of things that are most important to you and narrow your list down so you can give those who interest you more attention. Narrow it down to the 10 who match your list closest, then take some time getting to know each. Stick to your list and you will be able to narrow that list down quickly to maybe 5. Once you get there find out how serious they are by inviting them to come and visit you. Make sure they understand Filipino Culture enough to know that there will be a chaperone during courtship. Anyeone can get away to see you within 6 months if he is serious and able. If not you are asking for trouble. So, if all 5 show up then you can observe how they act in person and see who feasible it is for them to court you from their home country. How are they going to earn money in the RP? Are you going to support them? You know how hard working visas are to get. So either the guy is wealthy or is old enough to have a pension.





You said age wasn't important but think about that. How old is too old? Most of the people from the countries you mentioned are not going to have the income to retire before age 65. Are you ok with that?





I am familiar with Alabang and it is a very nice area. You are looking for a real individual here who is going to be happy living in the Philippines. You can't tell that until you see how he responds to some of the cultural differences over here. You might even find on this journey a man who is also Filipino and shares your same goals. Certainly not all Filipino men have the macho complex. I realiize that it is part of the culture but I have a brother in law who isn't like that at all. He isn't a wimp but he has no macho complex. So what I am saying is follow your current plan with some logic but try to keep an open mind when it comes to every nationality.





I wish you the best of luck





Also check out PLIP to see some western men who are already living in the Philippines. Most members of this Yahoo Group are married so you can gain a welath of information directly from the horse's mouth so to speak.


http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Philippine...
Reply:I think it is extremely naive to think that caucasians are not equally prone to macho behavior as pinoys, as well as to make blanket statements that they are always more compatible with you personality-wise. Whites talk exactly like Pinoys about women. Trust me I know. Report It

Reply:Ok, so you want to marry a foreigner just because they have lots of money, i.e. mucho dinero?





Jesus, what is wrong with filipinas these days, are they not attracted to the fellow filipino guys anymore?





It doesn't matter which race, there are nice and bad guys in every race, choose a guy that will fit your own personal criteria.
Reply:i married a german and he´s a wonderful husband.


my ex boyfirend was dutch and he was also great.
Reply:It can't be based on nationality. It's like going through a haystack looking for that elusive needle. You have to know them individually, these people got their own plans in life and for sure they just won't dump their lives from their country, trek halfway across the world and settle with you. Goodluck on your search and I hope you find what you're looking for.
Reply:Please carefully rephrase your question so as not to come off to people here as a naive, inexperienced young woman stricken with a bad case of colonial mentality or inferiority complex. Thanks =)
Reply:No race shall be considered as the best as they have all their own "worsts"..





I understand that you are considering getting married to one of these guys but your basis of what you cal BEST must not be on the race since that is too general. Consider the things that you can get: comfort, love, future, everything you need. Above all, you must consider the criterion that they must have the love for your country especially that you plan to live here with the chosen one.





If someone was able to meet al these criteria, then he must be the BEST.





Good luck!
Reply:canadians
Reply:u find good and bad men in every nationality u should worry more about the mans personality, job prospects ,likes dislikes,habits,hobbies ets more than his nationality
Reply:Aside from american and canadians, italians and french are of good behavior and have a very high regards to women.
Reply:I met my girlfriend on Asianeuro.com and even though I'm from Brazil and live in the U.S.A., I don't think I would have any problems moving to the Philippines 'cause I love her!
Reply:THe baset foreign guys are the honest ones. Now the real trick is finding them :-)





Hint: They most likeley will not be online


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